What is sex for?


Think about it . . . What is sex (sex play, sexual intercourse) for?

What do you think about these answers (actual quotes from individuals, professionals, organizations, and sex educators)?

“To show that you care for someone.”

“To satisfy your appetite for sex. When you’re thirsty you drink something; when you’re hungry, you eat. When you have sexual desire, you have sex.”

“To make you feel better.”

“To relieve sexual tension, fulfill natural desires.”

“For getting to know someone better.”

“Something fun to do.” A 15-year-old, “What I enjoy most is making love and playing hockey.” An 18-year-old boy, “What I enjoy most are skiing and sex.”

A college girl: “It’s just a normal part of a relationship.” This girl, looking for a male study partner, described what she was looking for as “sort of like a boyfriend, but without the sex.”

A participant in an international AIDS conference, “To satisfy a basic human need, a natural urge. It’s inhumane to expect a teenager not to have sex.”

A psychiatrist, “A rite of passage into adulthood.”

A sexologist, “For healthy personality development.”

An association of school librarians, “For pleasure. It’s the ultimate human experience.”

The founder of Planned Parenthood, “To find inner peace and security and beauty. . . to attain the great spiritual illumination which will transform the world and light up the only path to an earthly paradise.”

SIECAN (Sex Information and Education Council of Canada), “For pleasure.”

An American theologian, “To communicate. It’s a form of communication.”

A curriculum for public school sex education, “To help develop a healthy personality, enhance quality of life, foster personal growth, and contribute to a fulfilled life.”

A sex ed text, “For health. We’re made for sex, so it’s unhealthy to repress natural urges.”

Another sex ed text, “For recreation and procreation.”

A professor of philosophy, “You decide. You determine your own meaning for it.”

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How would you have answered this question growing up? How would you answer it now?

How will your son/daughter answer it?

Can you discuss this question with your teenager?

To be continued . . .

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