I’ve known it most of my life. I accept it. I find ways around it. It will never be any different for me.
I’m short! There – I said it. Yes, I am SHORT – call it vertically challenged if you must, but the reality is I’m not very tall. As the dictionary tells me, I have little height. Normally this doesn’t bother me much. Simply put I’d rather be short than tall.
I was baking recently and when my arm got tired holding up the electric beaters, I stood up on my kitchen stool. Instantly I was one foot taller! As I continued to mix up a batch of cookies, I looked around the room. What a different perspective I had! It was rather refreshing as I began to think of the tall people in my life and how they must see things…and me!
Why do I find it so hard to accept the nice things people have said about me lately – not only to others but also to me, personally. I don’t understand why when someone tells me how much he or she appreciates some aspect of my character that I would rather turn away, roll my eyes, or bow my head. In some ways, it’s almost easier to accept criticism.
Am I alone in this or does anyone else out there in blogger world struggle with this??
Slowly, I am beginning to learn how to accept praise more graciously. I enjoy giving it to others so I should be willing to receive it as well. Perhaps it all goes back to my perception of whether or not I am worthy of that praise. Maybe as a perfectionist I just think I’m not good enough yet to hear someone praise me. As women, we are natural nurturers who use praise to encourage our children, a co-worker, our husband, a friend, or even a stranger. Yet when we are on the receiving end, why are we sometimes reluctant to accept praise?
Growing up in a Christian environment, we are taught the virtues of humility and considering others to be better than ourselves. (Philippians 2:3)
“Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us.” (Romans 12:3)
“Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up in honor.” (James 4:10)
Humility is to be an identifying characteristic of every believer in Christ, but so is encouraging each other and building one another up. (I Thessalonians 5:11)
“We should help others do what is right and build them up in the Lord.” (Romans 15:2)
“…Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” (Ephesians 4:29)
I love the analogies in the following,
“Kind words are like honey – sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” (Proverbs 16:24)
“Timely advice is lovely, like golden apples in a silver basket.” (Proverbs 25:11)
So, like everything else in life, I believe balance is the key. Humility that does not allow me to think more of myself than I should paired with an inner soul that allows myself to accept the praise from others is a virtue worth pursuing.
Accepting the praise of others should make us truly humble in spirit!
Until next time,
**All Scripture references are from the New Living Translation